This is why D14 isn’t living with you. A child can feel this. Her mother doesn’t like her, her brother hates her, and mom pretty much supports this.
I’m glad you want to change this. I don’t even think it’s that you don’t like your D14. I think you are very jealous of her.
It destroyed me as a kid when I felt my mother was resentful of me.
Kas, there is nothing more important in this world than your mental health and your kids mental health.
Right now, I can’t think of any better way to spend your money than on copays for counseling.
This is beyond what some strangers on the internet can offer you. You and your family needs this almost as much as food. I say this with the utmost concern and worry, and with the least judgement.
Get your you and your family the help you all deserve and I imagine that life will be infinitely brighter
