I never thought about a fake name for my fake name either.
Originally Posted by Gerda
Told my D10 about it a little -- she asked if we could meet DnJ and I told her that actually I was meeting someone from "my group" in real life.
Awe. <sniff>
What a sweet girl.
Originally Posted by Gerda
I have been led by two things up until now. One is fear. Fear of screaming and fear of the judge or whomever else thinking I was wrong. The other is fear that if I fully participated in being more aggressive in this process, H would never be able to come back, that I would no longer be Noble Gerda.
I like your looking within.
Ah, fear. It looks like it’s about to loose it’s grip on you.
You already got screaming and a judge giving you what for. And of course H thinking your wrong. Bah, who cares! They can suck eggs! (Hahaha still love that. Don’t know why). Oh yeah, where was I. So that fear is not near as big as once it seemed.
The next fear, H coming back and Noble Gerda. Do you feel these are tied together? That you must be noble for there to be a chance for H’s return?
I think you are seeing beyond that now. Seeing passed the irrational coupling of those. H’s possible return is mostly decided from his path, not your’s.
Also seeing that it is just business. Understanding that you can still be noble and a beacon while protecting you and your kids. Aggressive doesn’t automatically equate to vindictive. Aggressively defending or protecting someone, even one’s self, is pretty noble IMHO. Of course me, my steed, and my shinny armour... no wait...it a green cape. Right, almost forgot. Besides capes are lighter, and cleaning up after horse would be such a chore.
I think I may have lost some of my point in all that.
Gerda, it sounds like you are making a decision on backing out of the deal. Also I like that you are looking at getting a different lawyer. From what he said you signed a poor deal, and worse case you end up right here again. You know your situation best, and this doesn’t sound like too bad a gamble. You know I support you in this. Get mantle sized DnJ out. This is just business and I always encourage listening to one’s lawyer.
Take care
Fred Bob Sam Mark Rick Ken Sean Copernicus
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
