All food for thought everyone, thanks for your input.
Yes when you put it like that, I played a part in upsetting the stability of the M, but yo uare right - she is the one who has decided the blow it up.
It is such a waste. I really think that if she didn't do this we could have got MC and DB-ed effectively as a couple. A lot of people have said to me, "Is that all you did?" or "Why wouldn't she want to try?"
Anyway - off to the gym now!
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020