Foxpop, your H and mine are reading the same script at the moment. Claim you want the divorce and then do whatever possible to stall while simultaneously blaming the other party. Looks like you aren't making the mistake I have at several times, thinking his ambivalence somehow related to feelings for me. Nope, all about him and that MLC fear of making any decision at any time. I think they do convince themselves we are the holdup. At least for mine, I used to do everything for him. Now that I'm not, I can see how he would think it is me. Of course when I try that, I'm just controlling and he disappears because he doesn't have to do things my way. My guess, if you want the divorce you will have to push it through as your solicitor suggests. I will be doing the same as soon as my son, who struggles emotionally, is in the clear from any forced visitation without limits.
OwnIt isn’t it funny how they follow these scripts. No prier knowledge of MLC, no contact with each other yet they follow theses scripts. Fascinating.
If they blame us they can keep avoiding the hard truth that it’s them and only them. However you can only run for so long before it catches up with them. OwnIt don’t think for one second that I haven’t had any thoughts that these delay tactics could be about his feelings for me. I have had moments as it’s human nature but I quickly remind myself that it’s about them and only them.
I have tried to push it through but he finds a way to delay. I’m now faced with only one option to push it through and that’s court but I couldn’t afford it and to be honest I think in reality I would regret it. I also believe H is somewhere in the later stages of his crisis and if I’ve come this far still married then perhaps I should just let it play out and see what happens. At the moment it’s financially better for me to wait and see but I’m watching carefully.
PeaceToday you’re so right, H completely doesn’t get that our D is business not emotional. He’s going on about how he will have no money and I’m there telling him that I don’t care it’s about me being able to provide for our D and not him. He went very quiet. I think he hoped we could cut out the solicitor and he could just manipulate me . Sorry but but not happening I have a child and that changes everything.
