Gerda Finally Sees the Broken Fragments

[Gerda]

Got a text from H today saying "nevertheless" he couldn't pick up D10 on Wed (third week in a row he has changed or cancelled) because of court. Nevertheless I guess meaning since I forced him to file another motion.

And he always seems to forget that if he can't pick up D10 because of court, neither can I.

I sent it to my L and said what is this and L wrote back, "I don't know, maybe he is filing a motion to compel you to use his broker."

I have not heard from L for a week though I keep calling and sending e-mails to push him on settling one of the big issues before moving forward on the biggest issue.

I have realized that the horrible deal that I signed is even worse than I thought because it has no numbers on it. So H is bullying more than ever and refusing to come to any agreement because we don't agree on what the numbers would be. The biggest part of that is that I calculated everything based on giving H what he would walk away with from a sale. He is calculating it based on the appraisal without any closing costs and we have never even agreed on the marital debt numbers. The closing costs in this case would be the difference in my ability to buy him out or not. So I signed a deal I thought I could afford as a buy out, but it is turning into a deal that forces a sale and leaves me with no power in a sale.

I was already considering pulling out of the deal and going to trial and I did find a new L who seems at least a little better than the current L because he asked all the same questions I have been asking -- e.g., why aren't we filing a motion on X or Y in order to have more leverage, why aren't the kids needs being considered or met?

Now it seems that my decision is made for me. I either keep defending myself with same judge who doesn't care about kids,same lawyer, same bad deal, or I get a new lawyer and a new judge and go to trial.