Come on man she's playing you like a fiddle. She goes from seeing a lawyer to all of a sudden full remorse. She's feeling sorry for herself that's it. Tell her you need her phone and the password and see what she says.
I already have her phone and password, but I do need a plan for going forward. She will have to prove she is serious about working on the relationship. I think the first step is to get her to contact the OM and tell him it is over and to never contact her again. Once she does this then I can begin to trust somewhat and have faith in what she says. I think it is also very important for her to share her location with me so that I know where she is at all times.
If she turns off her location etc.. then I know that she is hiding something or being untrustworthy.
After meeting with the lawyer she claims she could never go through with it. The lawyer simply told her our kids are frown and the only asset we have is our home so there is nothing to contest in the divorce. Would be a waste of time to contest anything.
No do I believe her? I absolutely do not believe anything she says. I told her last night that the first thing she would have to do is send an email or call the OM with me present to verify contact is over. She claimed she already did that and has taken care of it. I again told her that she would have to do it in front of me with me present.
Here is the only problem with jumping into this too quickly. Once I state my boundaries and what I must have going forward. If she doesn't hold her end of the bargain then I have to file for divorce. I don't see it any other way. THis is why I am not in a hurry to begin with my boundaries.
I feel like I should continue on my present course atleast through the holidays and after the 1st of the year it will be time to set boundaries and terms for me staying in this marriage. Yes, the meeting with the lawyer probably put things into perspective to some degree. I remember meeting with the lawyer and I had a huge since of despair feeling after I walked out.
