It’s been a while since I last posted as H has been very inactive. What was supposed to be our final mediation session in November never happened because H couldn’t get a Solicitor that would agree with him in time. So roll forward to now and H has now got one, his original one. What a surprise! 😂 So I received a random letter that basically suggested I was holding things up and preventing negotiations by not providing my financial information. The same financial info that I have submitted twice over the last two years. Apparently If I want to continue I need to submit it which I’ve basically ignored on the advice of my Solicitor because 1) I’ve done it and 2) as we are using a mediator his solicitor doesn’t need it. So moving on from that crazy H then decided during a conversation regarding finances to start getting upset about how he doesn’t know what he wants because no solicitor will tell him that he’s going to come out of this D with a decent settlement and how we have used up so much money on this. Ok so point out the obvious why don’t you. Anyway I made it very clear that it’s his doing and nobody else’s and that I didn’t not and do not want a D and that I was willing to negotiate but not without a solicitor. He then proceeded to tell me that he wasn’t angry with me and that he owes his solicitor a fair amount of money and needs to pay his rent so would probably delay payment until Jan. sorry H not my problem. He said we would talk properly about it when he wasn’t working but I wasn’t hopeful. Then sure enough he’s been avoiding me since.
So when he called last night I said we needed to sort out what we are doing and sure enough we have now moved to it’s my fault because I won’t take his financial offer and that I should because he can’t afford to give me what I want. Apparently I’m blackmailing him with my proposed settlement so I’m stalling things. H even asked why we couldn’t have a mediation session with us and our solicitors. You know just like the one he cancelled. 🤦‍♀️ When I pointed out that he could make a counter offer and we could negotiate he actually said “ what you want me to negotiate? You would do that?” OMG this is a man who lives by the rule that everything can be negotiated on and if you don’t ask you don’t get. So back on the crazy train we go. O Joy!
