It might be time to lay out your terms/boundaries. You need to sit down and write them down.
I will give you some examples.
First one. Attend counseling of a counselor that is pro-marriage. Have her pick the person out and then you screen. Having her pick the person, shows if she is serious.
No more contact with OM. Have her make a call, write an email or send a letter. My Wife wrote and email. I read it and corrected it before she sent it, I watched her press send and made sure it was in her sent box. You can also have her make the call in front of you.
My wife threw away all the gifts and clothes she wore with OM or around OM.
She gave me the code to her phone and I told her no more locks on phones. I can check her phone, pick up her phone anytime I want to.
And I laid out my boundaries, things I wasn't willing to live with in a marriage with.
Your W seems to be coming out of her waywardness. If she's reading self help books that's a good sign. And only you know if your W is being sincere. You will have to have some faith. It won't be a 100% answer if she's ready or not. But the signs does seem in your favor.
Keep posting!!!
Great job on using the advice!
Onward and upward
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
