Hi, PLC—my MLC H BD in June, so you’re just ahead of me, and I think only on the best moments of my best days I feel as clear-headed as you sound. I just posted on the newcomers forum, and it’s funny to come here and read your question about laundry. I’ve always done our laundry and continued to do his after BD, trying to show love through the smallest actions. Occasionally he’d say, You know you don’t have to do my laundry, and I’d say, I know. After he initiated an R talk pre-Thanksgiving and told me he was planning on filing soon, he started keeping his dirty clothes on the floor of the “his” room, and just now bought a pop-up hamper so his clothes aren’t scattered everywhere all the time. Feels like a kind of passive aggressive power move—you will no longer touch my clothes! Ha. Ironically, this means he has to be around the house long enough to do his own laundry, when I’m sure he’d rather be out with his new friends.
