You’re not a loser you’re just in a transition period. This time of the year is tough on us northerners for sure. Even though I was married for 3 out of the last 4 Christmas’ they were pretty lonely and empty for me. That’s how many married people on SM feel and it’s all fake. I’m optimistic now that this will be my last lonely Christmas without a SO. You should be too. 2020 will be your year I am sure of it.