Well thank you, Hope, that's a nice complement. I have seen some of her thread, not all. Sometimes I am not so sure how much people appreciate my rusty, nail-studded, 2by4s! I am happy to share them however. I just often don't tell people what they want to hear.

I have been supporting a friend through a similar sitch as my BD several years ago. I just adore her. It pains me to see her going through the same heartache, anxiety, fear, sleepless nights, and self doubt. We just had a long conversation. Her H is showing signs of wanting to return. I don't have a lot of advice for her -- just listening, being supportive, and knowing that it all takes such a long, long time.

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela