I think you really goofed contacting the OW again. Why wouldn't she be blocked? I hope you've done that now. And delete her # too.
Yeah, I was wrong to respond. Oddly enough, I had deleted her contact from my phone when we ended it, and at least on my iOS phone, you can't "block" a number that isn't in your call/message history UNLESS that number is also in your contact list. So, since I had cleared my phone log and message cache and didn't have anything to block, I just counted on her not contacting me as agree. That worked for almost a year, until it didn't.
In my defense, she was in touch with her OM (at least the one) for YEARS after their encounter, without me micromanaging her communications or crucifying her for it. The double standard does make me bristle so I try to not even think about it.
I appreciate the comments, but the message of DBing, and some of the points made here, does seem inconsistent.
She's said she's "done" with our marriage; she doesn't want to do anything social with me whenever I've asked (and she's gotten annoyed when I tried); she doesn't have any interest in talking to me at home unless it's about the kids; she doesn't want me touching her.
I don't want her to "solidify" my relationship --- I'm waiting for a shred of evidence that she has any interest in our relationship before I do any more counterproductive pulling/trying/deciding.
I don't get it. Aren't I supposed to be "letting her go" and GAL-ing and all the other things that were described in the book and in these posts?
She wasn't asking me to go out on a date with her or anything --- she was just relaying an invitation from friends, and asking me what I wanted to do, as if she would be doing me a favor by going. The last time I asked her to go out to see a movie or grab a bite, she got annoyed at me "trying" just like you'd expect from the DB theory here.
