Thanks, Job. He’s been going to his IC for these last 6 months as well, but I don’t know for sure how often. Our mutual friend says he doesn’t tell her anything about the sessions, but his general attitude is he doesn’t know why he’s going, though she says he hasn’t said that in a while now. During our last talk, he did mention that the IC is helping him recognize his patterns and push back against him when he says if you can’t change something, there’s no reason to let it affect your feelings or make you unhappy.
I do think early on he’s told her the version of our R that will allow him to justify his decision, but I suspect he might have shown her the apology letter I wrote him, which would’ve given her at least a small picture of the work I’m doing on myself.
It’s become clearer and clearer to me that he has a long way to go on his own and learning how to deal with a range of emotions in a more healthy way. I’m really hoping he continues to stick with his IC, because he’s going to need help with that. My own IC did say if he’s numbing with alcohol, which it appears he is, C progress can be really slow.
