Hey Hoosjim,

Back issues are no joke. I'm sorry to hear you're facing the problem and the pain.

A few thoughts:
Touch LL: You can still kiss; can tell her she looks beautiful and to come to you for a kiss.
Sit close at meals, hold her hand when you can.

Acts of service LL: If you can financially afford it, you can have flowers delivered to her. Order in meals. Work on bills/budget. Organize a trip for her to a spa.

You can show your perseverance by continuing self help books while your incapacitated and healing. Organize physical therapy once you are allowed by your doc to show W you're not waiting around. If you have a job where you can enhance skills from home via books or online material, now is a good time.

My mother had back issues and rarely allowed the time to heal, causing more issues in the end. Take the time to heal on this one.

I'll pray for you.


H37, W37
D4, S2
ILYBNILWY 9/19
BD 9/19
EA discovered 10/19
Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated