Have the confidence that you'll get through this and come out stronger on the other side...whatever side that is. If you have confidence in yourself and your ability to handle life's curveballs you will react differently to certain things and people will notice. If your posture, body language, tone of voice, language are improving around the kids she will notice.
Flirting - you don't have to flirt with your wife just yet. Flirt a little with strangers - over time it will help build confidence too.
Sense of humour - even in the worst times people have the ability to laugh. Again, just be yourself you don't have to reinvent yourself into Dave Chapelle. Just try and find the humour in the little things each day.
Strength - this isn't just physical strength. Show that you are emotionally strong...learn how to deal with stress, become more resilient.
Leadership - taking care of things that need to be taken care of. It's not about having power necessarily, Just take the lead in things you may not have done before.
NO NO NO - you don't take the lead on talking. Let the cat come to you.
Lastly - I'm past the year mark in my situation and things only got better within the last month. I'm patient my nature but never experienced anything like this before. And you know what, better just means I see changes in her coming back to herself and our interactions are way more pleasant. It doesn't mean we are going to get back together...I don't know what will happen but either way I'll be ok.
H 37 W 31 S 2
T: 7 M: 4
BD 12/18 Separated 2/19 Living back together 04/06/2019 W Moved out again 07/15/2019
