MLC or Exit Afffair?

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One more answer. When he would come home late, it was partly due to work. He attends a lot of evening/weekend social events/coffees/dinners/happy hours to "network" and promote his business. Some he could miss, but I think he intentionally makes lots of social commitments because he is very sociable and to avoid coming home to deal with the drudgery of family life. Hence, my resentment. I take on the bulk of "kid work" and when I ask him for help with something specific (e.g., watch the kids, pick someone up), he is usually too "busy." Sometimes he will help though and this year was actually the best he has done ever.

Part of what led to the BD was me "putting my foot down" and bringing up all the crap he does that I can see through. I have enabled him all along and I realize that, but I finally wanted to get it all out in the open about how I needed more help with the kids and around the house, how he needed to come home earlier, etc. to make our marriage work. He then decided that he actually does not want to work on the marriage and sent me a web link about divorce in our state.