The only way this is successful it to NOT do something to instill fear in him. IE, you really start to move on. If you do really move on he will start to feel that and it COULD.....key word.....COULD instill him with a fear of loss. Or he may be so far gone he doesn't care if he loses you.?
Steve is wise and clarified my belief well.
Most posters do things trying to manipulate their spouse. This does not work.
When you decide that you have had enough of the BS and do things that protect you and your kids, you are on the right path.
Everything is so counter-intuitive. Even at the point in the process when the spouse comes back begging for you to take them back.
This is a big onion that needs to be peeled by you. Get good at peeling off the layers. Read as much as you can here. Cadets links, my quotes, sandi2 posts.
You two know each other better than anyone else on this planet. You now see the real him. He sees the real you. Flaws and all.
This is all about your personal growth and has nothing to do with your spouse. He is on his own path. You fix you. He fixes him. He can't change you. You can't change him.
Best worst thing I ever went through. I am grateful looking back. I am a better person after going through the process.
HUGS
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
