MLC or Exit Afffair?

[Ready2Change]

I would plan activities and then ask if he would like to tag along. If he says no, then go on and do those fun things and leave him home to mull over his mess. If he says yes, then go and have a good time.

You have to learn how to phrase your requests. You need to give him the option of doing something or not.

^^^^This is critically important.
Another good option is not asking if he want to tag along.

Just a small selection of ways to make the statement:

W:"H, Kids and I are going ice skating tonight. We are leaving at 6 and will be back at 9"
or
W:"H, Kids and I are going ice skating tonight. You are free to join us if you would like"
or
W:"H, Kids and I are going ice skating tonight."
or
W:"H, Kids and I are going ice skating tonight. I would like you join us, but I understand if you don't"
or
W:"H, Kids and I are going ice skating tonight. Would you like to join us?"

If I was in your shoes, I would test the waters using the top method. See how he responds. I would do it for 5 or six events. After that, if you believe he wants to join you, try the second. If he turns down invites, Go back to informing vs inviting.

Remember, no pressure.