MLC or Exit Afffair?

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I spoke with one therapist who told me I need to let him know I am angry. She says I am making it easy for him to do what he is doing and he needs to feel some pressure. That he will just continue if I allow it. This of course is contrary to DB advice. I am so conflicted!!!

I do not believe this is contrary to MWD advise. It has been a long time since I read the books, I should go re-read them.

One of MWD topics was "Ask for what you want".

I do not think pressure is what the other spouse needs to feel. I think they need to feel fear of loss and actual loss. Most posters do not set good boundaries and do not enforce them. Most posters let fear control them.