Living in Limbo

[joejoe1]

BB,

Great job. Like AS said, she will grow more rebellious and seem to lose more control of herself the more she feels she's losing control of you.

A real dumping is really never physical it's emotional. When we break up with someone, it's the emotional part the finally shows the actions of the relationship being over, never the physical part. That's why cutting off all R and M talk is so important. Once a WS feels a LBS emotionally detaching they have to start to make hard decisions and that's what they never really wanted to do. They wanted to keep their cake and eat.

There are three phases of Love:

1) Eros love - known as "erotic love". It is based on strong feelings toward another. It usually occurs in the first stages of a man-woman "romantic" relationship.

2) Philos love - a love based on friendship between two people.

3) Agape - unconditional love

I posted these three because when a LBS starts to emotionally detach, they WS loses two level 2 & 3. The first level is not sustainable and relationship built on the first level has a very unstable base and falls a part with any pebble that hits the pond.

Level 2 & 3 are strong and solid and has proven itself.

So when you are detaching with love/emotionally detaching and doing 180s, you are taking levels 2 & 3 away while building on 1 (becoming more attractive).

Level 2 & 3 can't be built in a day or a month it take years and the ability for a relationship to live out in the open.

LBS are more valuable than any AP can ever be. Because the WS loses more than just lust when they lose the LBS, they lose their emotional foundation!!!!

Most recons start off diving back into Level 1 just for it to die off quickly because of the newest of the relationship. A recon is a new relationship with the same person. It's built off lust, so that's why recon is so hard, because the bottom to level is where the most damage has been caused and takes the most time to build or rebuild.

Joejoe

You are doing great BB.