MLC or Exit Afffair?

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Speaking of him neglecting responsibilities, anyone who dealt with this, how did you bring it to the Wayward spouse's attention or did you say nothing and cope? I feel like letting him get away with neglecting his fatherly responsibilities is being a doormat. He has time to go out all night but does not have time for the kids. This is part of what annoys me most. He is making me a single mom before he even leaves .

Part of the tension in our marriage has been that he did not share the parenting responsibilities enough. He steps in occasionally when he feels like it. This year, remarkably, he had become the best father he has ever been but after the Bd he is going back to his old ways.

Right after the BD and before following DB rules, when I brought up the kids and them perhaps noticing his time away at night or noticing our issues, he abruptly said leave them out of our problems. My therapist says no. They are a part of us and I am making it easy for him to continue his behavior if I do not remind him about them.