A year on and standing

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Hi Steve,

Thanks for the reply. Understand that I will not be able to be always around and they have to form their relationship.

I noted the dynamics between the elder son and her had changed and I am not sure if it's lack of her presence around them that causes it, or her crusade for separation which my Elder son had come to realize and understand what it is about (he's 9 years old), that increases such frequency of disagreement between them both.

He seems short fuse towards her and I am stepping in to prevent any negativity or issue on getting to him from the outcome this situation. One thing is he would not behave towards me like that but would just snap at her. End day no matter what comes, I hope he would still be respectful towards her as a mother.

I do not know if such dynamics is the outcome of my family situation moving more and more towards like a single parent situation (as we used to do everything together but nowdays most of their activity only involve 1 parent). Even if it really ended in divorce, I just want to minimize the hurt/effect on them thus trying to be around them as much as I can.

Perhaps I should seek out some professional support on how to manage them through. I will be meeting my IC next week and see if she has any recommendation for me too.

For now my goal is to speak less, keep my replies short, concise and don't initiate any conversations unnecessarily.

By the way hypothetically speaking, if she gets me a Christmas present, should I get her one too? or I should just say thank and remain at that? Never intend to get her any so to prevent it looking like a pursue.