MLC or Exit Afffair?

[Ready2Change]

I was told by another poster not to sugar coat my advise. So I will give my 2 cents as unfiltered as I can.


Your husband sent you a text message that he didn't want to work on the marriage. So, I suggest that you have all communications via email, and keep it about "business". Parenting is part of business. Paying bills etc. Do not engage in relationship talk.

I am not sure how to deal with asking about Christmas plans. We both have in-laws out of town who like to see the kids. I am not sure if H has told his family.

Test the waters with a text like this:
W:"H, I plan on inviting my parents here for XMAS."
or
W:"H, I plan on taking the kids to my parents house for XMAS. We will be leaving this date and back on this date"

See how he responds.

1) OK.
2) What about me?
3) I want the kids to see my parents.

With #1 follow through with the plan. With #2 or #3, continue dialog.

#2) You can join us if you want. It is your choice.
#3) if you are staying home :"You can invite them to join us if you would like"
If you are visiting your parents "You can take the kids to visit your family next year"