Actually? I think your plan is right on. You are setting your boundaries and standing up for what you believe is right. You aren't doing it for her reaction or as a way to try to win her back.
Sounds like you've dropped the rope. Congrats.
(of course take this all with a grain of salt since I am floundering... but I think you're doing the right thing.)
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
