Generally someone in crisis will have an affair. That affair partner becomes the band aid to their woes. The affair partner tends to stroke their egos, make them feel good about themselves and, of course, listen and validates everything that they say.
Now, you have some that never have an affair partner, i.e., physical or emotional. This type of crisis person will obsess over work, gym, sports, gardening, yard work, etc. Some will purchase a sailboat or travel. Others, will take up religion and focus on that and others will completely disappear for years on end and then one day show back up.
Try to remember, if this affair ends, the crisis person could just as easily pick up another person. Sometimes they break up and then get back together.
PLC, you need to visit the MLC forum and read some of the work links that Cadet has put together. You will discover that just because an affair ends, it doesn't mean that the crisis is over.
The timeline for MLC will end when he/she is ready to end it. It takes a very long time because it took a long time for them to get to the point of a major crisis. We have no control over when it will end and no, we cannot snap them out of it. Try to remember, you didn't break him, therefore you, nor anyone else can fix him. He has to do that himself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
