With this process, you have to run your own race. You can't compare to people on a message board. You have to look at where you were, where you are and where you are going. The guy thing is a great example of a positive change. Take stock every now and then. And give yourself credit when you feel negative.
Before WAH left I couldn't be alone. My entire family, including me, expected me to fall apart. I focused on my kids and tried to get my act together. A pivotal moment was when D17 told me she was happy she had her mom back (my priorities were backwards).
The guy thing is fixed yes. I've got teenagers as I got closer they began to let me into their world.. They cuss and do cringe worthy things. They now draw inappropriate (funny) pictures for the fridge. S19 shows me all the porn texts/emails he gets. They admitted hacking my Netflix account (4 years ago) so they could watch MA shows. Turns out my sweet, straight A, innocent children aren't so innocent after all.
I'm on top of things more than I was before, fixed the guy thing and I've earned my way into my teens private lives. This is what I've accomplished in 8 months.
I do forget where I came from vs where I am now. My mental state needs a complete overhaul yes but I am working on it.
