I do great when I'm home surrounded by my children. My work continues to suffer. I can buy groceries but get physically sick when I try to do anything else outside the house.
D is worse than death. At one time in history woman wore black and withdrew from the world for a period of one year to grieve. In some cases this was extended to two years.
I'm 8 months out and I feel like a failure because I express my grief here in unhealthy ways. I feel like a failure because I'm not GAL. I don't want a hobby and I don't want to spend time with other people. WAH is done with me and all the DB'ing in the world isn't going to change that.
Its unlikely he will come back but even then the most successful stories on here are ones who spent at least a year apart, the longer the better. The reason many LBSs don't take the WAS's back is a simple matter of them waiting too long. They had their chance and they blew it.
The OM I was talking to his wife left him for her affair partner. 16 months later she wanted to come back. He said no.
Full disclosure the GAL thing always grated on my nerves. It implied that I didn't have a life before or that my career and family weren't enough. After work, the kids, etc. the last thing on my mind was finding stuff to do - especially outside of the house. I wasn't going to date. I wasn't going to go to bars - I never did that anyway. I wasn't going to join a new club or new activity, etc. I just wasn't. That's not me and it didn't feel natural. But I was okay with not doing what everyone said. I learned to be. You should be too.
However, I retrospect maybe I should have found stuff that was of interest, but I'd never do stuff just to do stuff. I did continue running - it's pretty cheap and available. I qualified for the Boston Marathon- so I had to keep training. I also used the opportunity to go to more concerts alone - again it was in bands I really wanted to see. I'm curious as to what your life was like before the BD. Did you so stuff by yourself? what about before you got married?
