You are struggling with the counter-intuitive nature of the advice you are getting here. I get it. But the reason the vets' advice carries so much weight is that they have seen so many sitches over the years and the same scenarios play out in similar fashion over and over and over. There are exceptions to every rule but the odds are stacked heavily against you that you have an exceptional sitch. You have been referred to Sandi's Rules. You can follow them, or you can do the opposite if you like. Here are the Anti-Sandi's Rules:
That was an awesome read Gekko, I laughed my tail off at the Anti-Sandi's Rules It was funny because so many LBS's (me too) engaged in exactly that early on!
That was an awesome read Gekko, I laughed my tail off at the Anti-Sandi's Rules 
It was funny because so many LBS's (me too) engaged in exactly that early on!