One more thing...since the BD, I have discovered that H has entered into some bad business deals that put him in way over his head financially. He is in a "rob Peter to pay Paul" situation that he never discussed with me. I could have helped but I don't want to mention it now.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years