Back before I knew my XW I was dating her best friend. We broke up and about a year later I started dating my XW. The XGF was PISSED even though she was dating someone else too! This was over 30 years ago and I've never forgotten what my XW told me about it- "she doesn't want you but she doesn't want anyone else to have you either." I think this is exactly the mindset of a WAS. This is why they get so angry if the LBS dates. It's not that they want to get back together, not at all. They just want the LBS to be alone and miserable and pining away for them for eternity.
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What happens from here? Do they get more mad at us and hate us more?
Usually not. Usually they come to grips with the fact that you don't "belong" to them anymore and that your moving on is inevitable. That's not to say they like it, but they learn to deal with it.
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Do they start to feel like they are losing us?
Yes they do, but that does not mean they want the LBS back. Sometimes that happens and sometimes it doesn't. That's why we say not to date to try and get a reaction out of them, because most often the reaction isn't the one the LBS wants.
