Hi Hesable. Welcome aboard. Why do you think your H is having a MLC? Can you give us a bit more information about the MR in past times?
What do you mean by primary breadwinner? A higher salary, more benefit, job security? Does he work on a late shift? Has he had problems keeping a job? Have you always been the one who kept everything running? If he is asked, what is a typical response from him? Sorry for so many questions, but maybe it will help you see what information to give that paints a picture of the marital history.
What are the ages of you and H?
One more...........tell us about the previous affair.
Hope you will post often, Hesable.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
