My sitch, I KNOW we would achieve happiness together if we made it. Not think, not hope, but I know. Similar to Mario's, we would get stronger through a dark time. She dealt with my sickness, I need to deal with hers. In my anxiety, she took in anger, words that weren't true and subsequent suffering. With her current WW/WAS ways, the same is happening to me now. She dealt with my anxiety for about 3 years!.
The problem here is you NEVER know. Many of us have been through this multiple times. The issue is not a matter of you KNOWING you would be happy staying with her, it is that you can't KNOW that she would and will be staying with you. This is where not having control over another person's happiness comes into play. Individuals have to find happiness internally. So you two could R, you could be the perfect H, and she could still be unhappy and want out again at some point down the road.
I see you trying to control things you cannot. Society. Her family. Her. Even though you say you know you can't control her, by saying you KNOW she would be happy if you stay together IS about you thinking you can control her happiness. You cannot. You get control over one person.......that is you.
Not sure if anyone has told you to buckle in for a long ride. You aren't even 3 months in yet, most sitches take many times more your current time-frame to resolve. This is a marathon, not a sprint.
And one last thing: You cannot nice her back to the MR.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
