This got popular fast, thank you all for the input and support. Mario, I appreciate you signing back up and giving feedback on doing things differently. Gekko, your post is very helpful, reading many rules backwards, I can see the desperation in many. Though some seem like they could work. Job, Steve, Ben, others and lurkers out there, thank you for rooting for us.
My sitch, I KNOW we would achieve happiness together if we made it. Not think, not hope, but I know. Similar to Mario's, we would get stronger through a dark time. She dealt with my sickness, I need to deal with hers. In my anxiety, she took in anger, words that weren't true and subsequent suffering. With her current WW/WAS ways, the same is happening to me now. She dealt with my anxiety for about 3 years!
Detaching is tough but I'm nearly there. D4 has been giving hints that something is going on ("we weren't home all day, im not sure where we went", her dolls yesterday told each other "I just dont love you anymore").
Sad. Whats killing me today is the double standard. With D4, S1, if I were to tell my W to leave and stay somewhere else all while I had an EA with another woman, society, her family and mine would destroy me. Here we are, her mother, sister proven to support her and I suspect others as well, besides OM of course. As a dude with NGS of course I'll say I'm a good dude but I'm really not bad. Hard to believe over the internet but I didnt do much. My close confidant explains it as getting the death sentence for jaywalking.
Vent over, I know where I am to blame, I know I'm not responsible for her actions. Im sad at societies morals and for all you in similar sitchs.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated
