My post wasn´t to point fingers at you. I was mentioning my situation and that I regret not following the advice, ALL the advice from vets here. And from the many pages I have read that seems to be the case a majority of the times. So I´m certainly not jumping at you and claiming you´re saying don´t follow the rules. I would agree Core and anyone else here should be careful following any advice.

Perhaps I´m misunderstanding you but for me, DB has changed everything. I wouldn´t trade who I am today because of it for anything. And I´m still only 10 months in to my sitch.

Me: 38
Stbxw: 35
No kids
Mini bd: February 6, 2019
ONS confirmed Sept 7, 2019
Told her to move out: September 8, 2019
W moved out: September 28, 2019
Divorce filed by me: September 23, 2019