Wow. Just wow. You are right, it is no wonder. And I am not saying this to beat you up, but I think other LBSs need to come here and read about this. This is a cautionary tale. Your current sitch is the result of one misstep and mistake after another. Two unhealthy individuals with unhealthy ideals and beliefs, co-depending and projecting on one another. I sincerely pray that if you two do R, that you guys get intensive psychological therapy first, and eventually intensive relationship and marital counseling.
Yes this was a symptom of a much bigger problem that started back before we got married. He went to a sex therapist for 1.5 years which helped a lot. We'd already done MC. With some distance and healing on my part I see the problems more clearly and think it's fixable. By the time I fix my problems he likely will have moved onto someone new. I lost hope when I found out about the OW.
