D13 said the dog should be more loyal and trustworthy than the one who walked out on us. I tried my best not to laugh.
It made me laugh! Plus that's setting the bar pretty low
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I am still working on myself and trying to detach from a fictional person I was together with for 22 years. Reflecting back I am starting to feel that my XW had multiple affairs on me for many years. I will never know the truth but the signs are all the same each time. We are divorced now but I guess it helps with the letting go part to accept she wasn't the person I put on a pedestal.
Yup you're starting to come out of the LBS fog and see things more realistically.
Regarding your XW doing all the Christmas decorations and cookies and stuff, props to her for at least trying. It's a shame D was upset over it but all you can do is listen (to your D) and validate. Don't be tempted to throw your XW under the bus.
Christmas Eve, don't sweat it. You get another day with D so it's all good. You can't make your XW be a good mom, so don't try.
