Thanks AS - I'll contact the surveyor tomorrow. W isn't pushing me to do it today, so she can wait!

She also hasn't got back to me about the finance court order, even though I've asked her to check something. She had typed over some of my info so my credit card total doesn't add up with the figure below it now. She hasn't responded yet (!).

One thing that really upset me is that she said she "didn't want to be with someone" who was "having mental problems...I just want a normal man." Thought that was harsh, especially when I had began IC and was immediately doing what my C had told me to do rather than be timid about it and scared to change. Makes me think if she found someone else and he treated her like **** would she be happy that he 'had no problems'?

Thanks for the boost saying I'm doing the right balance of stuff. I'll keep at it.


Me - 36, W - 32
No kids
T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr
Discovery - 14 May 2019
S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019
D & House sale final - Feb 2020