Divorce because I betrayed her trust - PART 6

[AnotherStander]

-Continue doing what I'm doing
-Be happy and stay happy
-Don't take the bait and respond to somewhat loaded comments from W if they come
-Enjoy my improvements and reap the reward I'm getting for my own benefit
-Don't expect W to find out about all my changes etc. - she may get to hear about it secondhand eventually, e.g. from mutual friends, but I will absolutely not go out of my way at all to tell her

I may have doubts about myself (i.e. how I'd react) for those times she will 'come closer' to the picnic in the future. I will of course come here for advice before I do anything stupid or otherwise!!

Very nice list!

I don't trust her to sort out the surveyor, so shall I do it?

Yes.

I don't want to, but maybe that's down to having emotional attachments to the house.

I think you're right.

Not sure I'm at the stage where I say 'I don't want W in my life', but the sentiment of not valuing what we had and just being happy to throw it away so quickly, with seemingly no thought of wanting to put effort in and running away when things are tough or very bumpy, is very pertinent.

It is indeed, to many of us! In the end that's what drove me away from my XW, the complete and utter lack of interest in lifting a finger to save the M.

I am not being overtly nice to W but just pleasant and polite. And keeping my distance. She's keeping hers. I will maintain this.

Am I doing the right stuff here?

Yes I think you're striking a good balance.