Actually this is a part that I am always thinking too. I do go over to my wife's side weekly with no expectations. But does that not seem to be like playing family? As if nothing changes for her and all is status quo.
But if I never go over because we are divorcing, then that becomes passive aggressive?
For me, I’m doing what’s best for the children for right now. Playing family or not, even if we are divorced I would still hope to be friendly with the father of my children (given that he won’t do anything damaging beyond what he’s already done to this family). I’m no expert on this...I think that when the divorcing situation comes for you, you can decide what to do then. You are thinking about what you will do in a hypothetical scenario with your current state of mind. I do that all the time too, but you gotta recognize it when your thoughts are running wild.
