Thanks everyone for all your input, it helps so much to recent myself even for short moments while I've been spiralling emotionally.
Brain was doing loops all night thinking of her with this guy and the limerance they would both be in. The stop sign technique really helped and I was able to sleep for a few hours.
(Few waking night terrors about her and him but I know I can't control my dreams, and that they will lessen)
She came downstairs this morning, I'd got the kids sorted as she was really ill with flu. I asked how she was feeling
She replied, really rotten, I'll be ok but let's not have talks today, Me: I'm sorry you're feeling rotten, completely agree about no more r talks. Let's just get on with the day. 2 mins pass Her: the talks are too much, its as if you think I'm just happy and not grieving as well. It's been really difficult for me to. I feel you want me to say I love you or make things better. Or that you want to see I'm hurting. I'm really struggling too. It's not fair and feels selfish the same as you were during MR. I validated each of her points then wound up the conversation to get the kids to school.
Just getting on with the day and work now together but no talks
