Thank you so much for sharing. I will put a conscious note to that and limit my conversation. I think I got carried away and when she initiated something, I just talk too much. Part of my talkative character.
Yesterday she was home surprisingly early, since like for months. When I got home, both kids rushed to me and she was minding her business in the bedroom writing her journal, something which I have not seen her doing for a year. She used to write that when she started her own therapy session just after BD. but I guessed she had also stopped her therapist session. Something she refused to tell me about initially when I check in on her then and I never asked since.
After dinner I got into the bedroom and noticed something was not right. I probed my elder son and then he told me that he had a quarrel with her over some minor matters and the both of them were ignoring each others. I found out what happened started counselling my elder son telling him that the misunderstanding that caused their quarrel stem from good intention and we love him a lot thus the mother's action earlier. Next I told the boy to go hug his mother. The boy cried. And the mother also turned and cried.
This morning, she thanked me for resolving their disagreement. I just told her welcomed. I noted that she had always been getting into frequent argument with the boys. She felt that she knows and is caring for them. However I felt that she has no patience to managing the kids and have unrealistic expectations on them at her current state. Thus I also try to be around as much as I can to negate such occurrence.
Anyone has any advise for me to manage above scenario particularly with the kids getting into conflict with her?
M:38 W:38 T:14 M: 12 S:9 S:6 BD: 07/18 W Moved out: 5/19 W Moved in: 7/19 D draft received: 12/19
