Sounds like things are going well... nice to see the 180s are sticking... and that it is bringing you to a place of better communication, you're released from guilt of GALing, he's really working on the R too. And I love that you were able to drop back into a couple days of DBing and it worked! (Feels like a diet!) Super interesting.
Do you guys have your plans worked out for Christmas?
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing