But you are letting her cake eat right now. Words don’t let her know. Actions do.
And this is going to be tough to hear, I’m sorry..... but she could very well be happy. Sounds like she did for herself what we do when we DB. She felt she needed to work on herself and be good with herself. And she seems to be doing that. And sometimes, just like when the LBS DB’s and does all their own internal work, they find the person they became doesn’t fit with the the WAS anymore.
And I don’t say this because I don’t think there is any hope. Actually, you are more hopeful than most. But I do believe she is happy right now with who she is. She’s not codependent anymore. But you Know, when she sees your changes after after a long period of time . And I mean a very long period of time, you two might just fit back together in a very healthy relationship.
There is a poster named. crimson who posted some time ago. I think him and his wife divorced and then got back together. It was about 2 years and she was done done done, but he did the work and he proved the changes and he was steady and strong and he was kind but had boundaries and quit letting her cake eat.
There’s hope. Are you going to IC? You would probably benefit a lot more from that rather than MC
