Great news JD , glad to hear you are going to step up . Show her what a great father you are , take extra care of the kids . No letting them get lost wink . Try not to convey your neediness and hopelessness to her . I think you are in need of detachment my friend . Get sandys rules buttoned down so it becomes second nature . If you find your mind overthinking about her and your situation, use the stop sign trick and have something else to occupy your mind