Thanks people, its time to stop what I'm doing and focus on myself, I was at the house again today helping with work and kids, we were getting on really well, had some jokes.

Then early evening I heard her talking to her friends.
Friend: why don't you just #### with ( name of guy) and get it over with.

W: I'd love to, only then I'd be really hooked.

This is the same guy who was part of her friend group months before bd. Same guy she was dancing in club with.
I'm devastated.
Part of me wants to believe this is stupid girl talk

I dunno.
Hurts like h#ll tho.
She noticed I was in a pretty quiet mood later, questioned on what's wrong, I didn't tell her what I'd heard, she kept on.

Eventually I said I'm finding things pretty tough some days with everything that's happened to us.
She replies there is no us ,I don't know what you want from me.

Then the kids came in, went to s12 school concert.

She left and went and sat in the car half way through, She's come down with flu, I know she's really stressed with us, the kids and her childhood trauma resurfacing.

I know now she's not doing as well as she's been making out.
It's just this infuriating girl talk now the 3 of them are all single.
Now I also know she's really got the hots for this guy.

No saving this right now but
I don't know how to let go mentally. We have Friday planned shopping with kids, weekend is my d6 Xmas party then next week Xmas hols and spending Xmas with kids for 3 days at the house.


Bd August 2019 after 16years
S 12
D 6