Yes on the dating after getting the papers. I did nothing before that no dates or hanging out with anyone I was interested in. Wasn't interested in anyone except her and fixing the marriage. Even tho I know about the secret text app that her boss and "others" at work use, coming home late from work bc she did not want to spend time with me (that also meant less time with the boys), sending her boss photos of her and a coworker in cocktail dresses at a conference and telling me she confided in her boss about our marriage.
For 18 months I spent time with the boys, friends and family. Hiking, sailing, surfing beaching it and just going along as normal and continued to go to a therapist and work on me.
She still says I haven't changed and definitely could not be with me now that I have "cheated on " her. She hasn't taken one step towards me or taken any responsibility for her part in the marriage going sour but has only blamed me for more and rewriting history.
My old name was Jimmyrigg or Jimmyrig007 sorry
Together 10 Married 8 Bomb drop 2/19 Separated since 6/18 Papers started 9/19 Two kids 5 and 7, boys
im in the house, she is local and at her parents, boys split time
