Why take vows in the first place if everything is conditional, is based off attraction, needs, wants, value, desires, fantasies, experience, hurt, heal, etc. Why take vows that are only honored and enforced only when they serve you.
I have an anxious attachment style and he's an avoidant. We took vows for all the wrong reasons. As a WAH he's learned nothing so he's attracted another anxious person. Stable people don't sleep with married men and two avoidants won't work. So if he moves her in this cycle continues only this time it will be worse (kids and 30 years of baggage).
Yeah...yeah we all have our stories of how some WAS's get their happily ever afters R's that started out as affairs but that is the exception not the norm.
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Why do we do this? Why do we put more effort into filling a void out of loneliness or boredom instead of strength and character building with time, effort, experience, and emotional growth?
I'm not bored or lonely I'm broken and the effort to fix me is painful. If I signed up on an online dating site to see what my options are I'd feel better. If there are halfway attractive men there then I'm good. All I need then is to use my sex appeal to find someone once my divorce is final. Yes, yes this will work. Until then I'll focus instead on my outward appearance. How much does professional teeth whitening cost anyway? lol
