Gerda - I agree with OwnIt. Think very carefully before you make any decisions. I wonder how much your emotions show when you face H in court, or any other time for that matter. Dig deep and keep emotions out of it. You can cry, rant, rave, or whatever when you are alone or to a friend. If he knows you are desperate to keep the properties, he will certainly go after them harder.
I don't remember the events, but did you and H go to mediation? If not, is that possible?
In any event, get good legal counsel before you do anything.
One other thing. You mentioned that going to trial is against your beliefs. How so? This is a business deal pure and simple. Treat it as such.
