MLC or Exit Afffair?

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I am new. My marriage has suffered through H's infidelity once before and DB phone consultations helped me get through. Even then H would not get counseling.

We have two children - 13 and 9. I admit that for a big part of the marriage I have been putting the kids first. I have felt like a single mom because H does the bare minimum and works until late (generally when he comes home the kids are already in bed).

Well, this fall, H started staying out late ( 3am - 4 am) and not calling or texting. Finally, one night, I blew up and asked if he wanted to be married. The next day he texted me that he did not want to work on our marriage. He thinks we should both move on. He says he will be there for our children.

Since then, he has moved to the basement and now barely speaks to me, stays out all night at tleast twice a week not telling me where he is going. He will not touch me physically and avoid being in the same room with me if possible. He has sent me information on amicable divorces to read.

I still love him and want our marriage to work for our children, but also because I care for him.