I agree 100% w/OwnIt. Please listen to the sage advice that she is giving you. Gerda, you need to keep your emotions out of the courtroom when you are attempting to make deals. Whatever attachment that you have to these places is understandable....however, now it is time to cut those ties w/that vacation home. You can always rebuild or purchase something else later down the road once your finances have been cleaned up.

There is no guarantee that you will have a different judge if you went to trial. This is now a business deal and you've got to leave those emotions at the door. Your emotions are what keeps you in a whirlwind all of the time.

Please, please reread OwnIt's posting....it is very important that you do this over and over again.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.